Women v. Women.
A North Carolina woman successfully sued her husband’s mistress for $9 million dollars last month, “Good Morning America” reports. Yes, the mistress, not the man she married and is now in the process of divorcing. Despite Allan Shackelford’s claims on a local (Greensboro) news site that their “marriage did not break up because of Anne Lundquist…it ended because of problems [the Shackelfords] created for themselves,” Cynthia Shackelford continues to claim it is the other woman who is most responsible for the dissolution of their 32-year union and a jury decided in her favor, upholding an alienation of affection law dating back to the 19th century.
While this is a preposterous tort and one that has worked in the favor of both scorned husbands and wives in the past, the most despicable action this case brings to light is not the suit itself or even the adultery, but the continued demonizing of one woman by another. Sure, Lundquist was shtupping Shackelford’s husband, but she didn’t rape him. He did her willing, regularly, and – as he also told his local media outlet – she wasn’t the first. This was just the latest in a number of affairs he had entered into over the past three decades.
That’s, “a shock to me,” the not-yet-ex-Mrs. Shackelford told GMA. Possibly, not plausibly, but she’s heard it now and STILL she chooses to blame the interloping female.
Only six other states recognize the obsolete legislation on which this trial was based, but women the world over have long been placing the blame for their failed relationships on any outside party whose ensuing tenure as significant other overlaps the close of their own. Take some personal responsibility, ladies. Hold your men, your exes, to theirs. Perhaps then, through a greater respect for self and sisterhood, there’ll be no need to seek validation and intimacy in another woman’s companion, in any undeserving human.
oh I've got a trick that should read this post. too bad we no longer speak cuz she blames me for her man cheating.
and i didnt even sleep with him, swearsies.